Forum Filter: Managing Relationships in Medical School

tristak: Communication is key. Being in love is a wonderful thing especially with your soul mate. I have been very fortunate to be with someone that is supportive and fits into my madness. I was once in a position where I was concerned that if I didn’t find someone to share my life with soon that once the career started then I would be trying to fit someone into the crazy career life. I feel more comfortable fitting the crazy career life into a balanced and healthy relationship.
jjmiller7: We schedule the hours of 5:00 to 7:00 p.m. every night as family time, regardless of what else is going on, and this has strengthened our family relationship. We are not going to finish medical school having been on two different paths that just happened to arrive at the same destination; instead, it will be through helping each other every step of the way
If you feel you have found “the one,” there is no need to postpone marriage until you feel your career is off the ground because you will lose nothing in the way of occupational accomplishments and will gain everything in satisfaction and contentment in your personal life. Having a friend and companion to work with you through medical school makes the journey much more enjoyable.
An_23339547: We also do a lot of study dates together, where we’re not necessarily interacting but being near each other and having frequent breaks to chat is good enough.
An_22512017: My S.O. have two sleep-overs (so dinner and breakfast) scheduled per week – which I sometimes have to cancel if things get too hectic at schools… because it’s always hard to be devote time to one without resenting (or worrying about) not giving time to another, I wonder if things would get easier if we lived together.
An_19883677: I moved in with my S.O. thinking it would be easier on our relationship. This has its ups and downs.
First, you are no longer living alone and thus you have to think for both of you what’s going on for dinner, etc. Second, household chores pile up a lot more, and looking like a bum while cramming constantly for exams takes the magic out of the relationship.
While you do see each other a lot more often, and have more support … my schedule doesn’t fit with his, and he often wakes me up in the morning leaving to go to work while I was just crawling into bed.

Making Time for Relationships [Medscape Blogs]

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